http://www.giniesalyes.com Please whatever you do at least read How to Meet The Rich (very good book)
Okay I not saying that a woman has to marry a rich man. He can be of modest means, but why is it that when a woman wants to marry well that she is ridiculed. This happens whether it’s about the man being financially stable ( has job, knows how to handle money, has plans) or his education. I went to a site advertising Lisa Mandells Hong K ong How to Snare a Millionaire class and on the website it was mostly she’s a gold-digger, money isn’t the only thing that can make you happy and even more dumb comments. Finally someone pointed out that their great-grandmother always taught them that you can fall in love and marry a rich man as easy as you can date and marry a poor one. One thing I did notice is that it was mostly men complaining. My thought on that one is that most of these men think or even know they might not measure up with women looking for quality men whether they are rich or of modest means. But isn’t it funny how men love to call women gold-diggers (and then get mad when their daughters date a guy below their level) , but go after women because of looks. Not only that how many times have we heard the story who marries the bosses daughter or even a woman so he can work for her fathers company and later take the reigns etc.?
Yes women around the world have this negative view put on them, but notice how many of those same men wouldn’t let their daughters marrying the garbage man after he’s encouraged her to get an education. This same goes with black men. Becareful because yes Steve Harvey might be telling you one thing and be telling his own daughter something else. That’s the reason I am always careful when men start complaining about books like the Rules, Why Men Love/Marry bitches saying a man wouldn’t want a woman playing hard to get he would lose interest then low and behold he has dumped the woman who listened to him and went after the girl who followed such methods. Women of other cultures might get this same stigma, but it especially hard on black women. We are accused of being a gold-digger (which I don’t understand because we make most of the moolah anyway), too picky (well see we are not giving that uneducated “brotha” a chance) looking for men who are either educated formally or informally etc. Don’t get me started on the stupid videos about bw looking for educated men etc. Yes there are white men who say this. Do you think most women especially the educated ones listen to them? I had a cultural anthropology teacher last semester (bm, well I think biracial) and he pointed out to the class that no matter what men like to think no non-educated or educated woman is not going to consider education when it comes to marrying a man. She is thinking of not only her life, but the life of her future offspring.
Since I said I won’t post a negative video there was a vid saying fallacies of black women wanting to mary well. I clicked out of it before the man even started really talking. But I did see a comment that I agreed with. The commenter said the problem is that black women aren’t as covert about it as other women are. I do have to agree. I think we need to be more covert. It’s sort of like when you want to start a business or do something new. Sometimes the worse people to tell are the people close to you. I’m not saying act like you don’t want quality, but becareful who you tell of your plans. Even worse detractors can be your own friends especially you are expanding your options, are happy and they are not because they bought into the indocrination. Don’t worry it though we are still learning and growing. But do remember you don’t talk to about about Doing the Rules, the Four Man Plan, Why Men Love Bitches or any method of the sort you just do them. Books like The Rules is another topic for a post in the near future.