Fourteen children by 13 different women in Genesee County and more than $530,000 in unpaid child support.
Even in a county with $700 million in uncollected child support, Thomas Frazier may hold the unenviable title of biggest deadbeat dad.
After years of dodging support payments, Frazier was thrown in jail this week and given the choice of doing 90 days or coming up with about $28,000.
“This guy gives fathers a bad name,” said Genesee County Friend of the Court Jack Battles.
You know I remember when baby mother/momma used to mean a girl or woman who was too young to be having a baby. She was usually a baby herself. Same with baby father/daddy. Now Baby momma means a girl or woman who is one of many mothers that a man has a child with. These women aren’t wives, but they are usually expected to take care of this mans kids, but also take care of him even though he has a harem of women all around the block, city hell who knows even the whole damn world. Baby momma is a term not meant for married women. So married women don’t call yourself a baby momma and don’t let anyone else refer that to you either. Also wifey (another post) I also think there’s a connection with Baby Mother turning into baby mommas as that many baby mothers/mommas are mostly young women and girls who have children by men having women with multiple women and young girls and women having multiple children with multiple men (damaging cycle that creates a whole new dangerous and dysfunctional cycle within the community and society as a whole.)
I am writing this post as a response to websites I was looking up when I was researching virginity in today’s world especially for those who are older. It’s just sad that many women and men are made to feel they have lost out on something, something is wrong with them, they are sheltered, shy, not cute, or a more stupid one I came across in which a poster told a woman that she must never have been in love,because she’s a virgin at 30 and making love comes out of loving someone (please). That’s a part of it, but why should a woman or man give something up because of what others think. It’s funny that none mentioned maybe the woman (which is what most of what I was looking up was about) felt the need, or wanted to wait. Not to mention the issues of pregnancy and STD. One idiot even told the woman to just get on with it. Even had the gall to ask what was she waiting for? I mean seriously that’s her business!
What they also fail to consider is the idea of that special someone. Which to me is utter crap! (another post) Many women have given it up to so-called special someones only to get preggers (and maybe the guy stays for a while, even marries her) most of the time the guy is not around. Then he goes to the next target and pulls the same crap on them. Meanwhile she meets a new guy who does the same thing until she catches on and sometimes it can be too late (STD etc.) Hell by most of the comments I saw I don’t think many should have been even thinking of having sex, because half sounded immature.
What many of these people making fun of women and men who are still virgins is that they don’t have the baby momma and non-baby momma drama that these individuals tend end up in. I ain’t gonna lie. I’m a VG and proud. People make fun because I am older 29. I watch my mom(my dad died and did somewhat help with his kids, but damn if that man wasn’t the ultimate baby daddy) and too many other bw, ww, hw, aw who ended up having kids too young, even older by men who liked to make them, but didn’t like to raise them. I have friends, cousins, aunts etc. who had babies early and had to struggle. From what I’ve learned over the years is that those who always harp on virginity are virgins themselves or get very little in the sex department so I don’t listen to them that much. What is unnerving is this idea of promoting virginity as something weird in mainstream society in a time of STD’s (which there was never really a safe time. The American revolutionary soldiers brought STD’s to their wives when they came back from the war) pregnancy, drama that you wouldn’t believe etc.
I am so sick of white mainstream society picking up things that are dysfunctional within the black community and then adding it to mainstream society. Why the hell would you want to pick up something that is dysfunctional and add it to your culture and then complain when you see dysfunction happening within your group? Movies like (although funny need to not be made) The problem with a movie like this is that the movie is making this seem as something normal and an alternative. But see they are telling it from another culture’s point of view. One that does not ascribe to the so-called bc’s idea of baby momma and baby daddy. Because if viewers noticed at the end the man ends up with the girl at the end and they move in together in an apartment (that he worked for (he was a slacker) so that he could provide for his new family) Who knows maybe they even got married later. Not going to lie I have a cousin who this has happened to. They had the baby first and got married a few years later, but it was always in the cards for them. My cousins hubby is a very marriage and family minded and oriented guy. That’s not always the cast. Most of the time the woman ends up raising the kid(s) alone, working more than one job trying to keep food on the table. Not to mention going to school while doing all of this. Or they take the term like the movie (half the time not sure if they even know what these terms mean) and make it about what it’s not.
Now contrast this with the movie which was literally about a young girl who was a mother and her older sister (who she was raised to believe was her sister) who was in fact her mother. Her baby father (2 kids by) was a singer as her aspirations was to be a singer as well and eventually that’s what she did. The movie didn’t glorify it, it was only to open eyes to what is going on within the black community in Britan, the U. S.(indirectly, because we can mos def associate). It also showed how this can create a cycle (the daughter didn’t know, but she was still in an environment where this is probably a norm for the young bw there.)
What is up with this culture that thinks that choosing to be a virgin is not normal? What is up with this culture that thinks that being a baby momma is normal? What’s up with the idea that there is something wrong with a black woman who wants college, career (or being a homemaker, that’s another topic) the dating, engagement, marriage, the home then the kids etc.
Actually looking at what I wrote; yeah I am a tad bit ticked. Oh well!!!